Store Your Memories in Your Scars (It Beats Self-Storage)

Store Your Memories in Your ScarsScars are a great place to store your memories. It’s cheaper than renting a self-storage unit and less messy than cluttering up your garage with a bunch of sentimental stuff.

Sure, the stuff may remind you of a person or a bygone era, but if it really meant that much to you, you’d let it live in the house with the rest of your belongings.

Instead, you’ve relegated it to a life of cobwebs, dust and, since we’re being sentimental, a life of loneliness, too. Not cool.

A Short Story About a Scar

When I was 18 I took up a friend’s offer to sell bodyboards at the coast. It sounded like the perfect to way to spend my end of year vacation and earn a little Christmas pocket money at the same time.

Halfway to our destination a car crash left me with my head split open and my friend’s daughter without a mother.

When I arrived home the following day Dad took my face in his hands and kissed me on both cheeks. Not one for showing emotion, he caught me off guard with this very public display of affection. (We were still at the airport.)

In the days that followed Mom took care of me in the loving way she always had. But it was Dad who drove me to Jill’s funeral and Dad who kneeled with me in church. (Again, completely out of character.)

[Tweet ““Scars are just another kind of memory.” ―M.L. Stedman, The Light Between Oceans”]

Side note: If you haven’t seen it, The Light Between Oceans is worth a gander.

Finding the Positive

My scar is hidden beneath my hair, but if it wasn’t I’d wear it proudly. I could easily view it in a negative light —for a long time I actually did— but now I’ve chosen to focus on the positive in it instead.

My father was funny, quirky and prone to bouts of ill-temperedness. Not an easy man to live with or love. My scar reminds me that he felt so much more than he ever showed or said.

If you want to let go of your attachment to sentimental stuff, one of the easiest ways to do that is to find other places to store your memories. Looking to your scars for inspiration may be a bit of a stretch, I get that. But give it a try anyway.

If you can’t get your head around the idea, then see if you can come up with other ways to store your memories. One way I like to remember my Mom, for example, is by stopping whenever I see a bakery.

She had an in credibly sweet tooth and cake was a huge favourite of hers. Sporty and I always take a moment to play the ‘what would mom choose’ game and it never fails to delight and uplift us both.

With this approach I’m not reliant on some inanimate object to remind me of my Mom, she’s everywhere there’s cake. How awesome is that?

Get Help If You Need It

After the accident, a kind Samaritan took Jill’s daughter and I home to spend the night. (We were in the middle of nowhere and needed time to arrange transport home.)

This bighearted lady, whose name I no longer remember, followed us to the hospital, waited while they x-rayed me and stitched me up, and then took us back to her family.

I was still covered in blood at this point, so she put me in a bath and helped me get cleaned up. Afterwards, we all had dinner together. Through it all I remained calm, normal even.

Later, in bed, a sob welled up in my throat. But instead of letting my emotions out, I choked them back. My Samaritan had gone to fetch me a valium to help me sleep and I didn’t want her to come back and find me crying.

That issue dates back to a something that happened on my first day school. Crazy how we hang onto stuff, hey?

For years afterwards, driving in the rain terrified me. Had I spoken to someone about what happened, things would likely have been a lot easier. But I didn’t.

Instead, I opted for the suck it up approach. Which is to say, I buried my head in the sand and just pretended everything was fine.

Fortunately, I’m a little more switched on these days.

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  1. You made me laugh and cry as I shared this with my daughter. Thank you so very much!

    Cheers from Phoenix, Arizona

    1. Hi Anne

      Wow, thank you so much for letting me know it resonated with you on some level!

      Cheers from Outshoorn (where we’re currently melting)

  2. So true, memories are more important than things. My dad, too, was not openly affectionate, but I knew he cared when other people told me how proud he was of whatever I might be doing. I talk to him every spring and fall when the Canada geese migrate, they were one of his favourite things.

    1. My Dad used to do that too! It used to bug me that he didn’t tell me himself, but now I’m just grateful to know he was proud of me. That’s cool about the Canada geese, they’re a way for you to store your memories of your Dad! Thanks for sharing your story with us. 🙂

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